How To Live A Happy Married Life

In John 4 verse 7 to 8 God as advise us to love one another, and love also flows through our marriage life that lives upto mutual responsibilities and so I refuse or disagree when most of people say now they have got married and from one they became tow instead I say they are not 2 but they are 1 x 1 = 1.Yes husband and wife are not 1 + 1 = 2 but they are 1x1=1 because Ephesians 5 verse 31 God says For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife and the two will become one therefore husband and wife are not 2 but 1x1 =1.

In Hebrew chp 10 verse 24, Husband and wife should always encourage one another towards love and good deeds, that does not mean that wife should always encourage husband to do good things like asking husband to leave his family and we will stay separate but wife should always encourage their husband to spread gospel and to abide by God’s word and most important wife should always encourage husband to become fishermen because this is what Jesus as asked us to do. Pope, Bishop , Priest, our worldly designation given by man but designation given by Jesus to each one of us is Fishermen. Jesus said come to me and I will teach you to catch men and so likewise the Husband should encourage His wife to do same.

1 Corinthians chp 13 verse 7: Love always protects That doesn’t mean love enables, covers over or make secret things that should not be brought to light. Giving protecting love is being very careful, prayerful of when, where and with whom we share our personal details of our married life which needs extra  help and wise counsel. Truly Love our spouse is to protect them by showing honour and respect for their feelings not revealing or doing anything that will cut them down by doing that we don’t value them.

1 Cor Chp 13  Love is Kind: does not delight in evil things and is not self seeking. So we should not embarrasses our spouse because by doing that we dishonor not only our spouse but in many ways we dishonor are Lord too. One more example I would like to share in most of the marriages what happens after marriage either of the partner say I am not happy with other and they start cribbing and I personally feel that is wrong because again we are dishonoring God, because our spouse was chosen one for us through our Lord so instead of cribbing we should ask Lord prayerfully to overcome the bad qualities in our spouse so that we can live a happy married life.

In Luke chp 19 verse 41 -44 In this verse Jesus shows his sadness towards Israel, but I am trying to relate Jesus sadness in Christian Marriages. God gives us peace in married lives as when we allow God to teach us how to truly love one another, But we see lot of hatred, war instead of Love in todays’ Christian couples and the reason behind is this is Peace is missing. Most of the couples are fighting for divorce, few of them engaged in extra martial affairs and most of the couples are running behind money to gain worldly riches and rewards . Instead Jesus said first we should achieve Jesus in our life and once we do that all other things falls in place but today we try our best to achieve worldly things first and the result of this is we go away from Jesus. To give divorce to your wife is the most wrong thing because in Proverbs 18-22 Loard said He who finds wife finds good thing and also God said what God as joined no man should separate it.

Give your spouse the same grace that you want from Lord and that you want Lord to give you.

Submission is a key element in the smooth functioning of any marriage. It is essential to understand that submission Is not surrender or withdrawal. Submission is a mutual commitment and cooperation.

Wife should submit herself to husband for sake of their marriage and family. Submission between them is by choice not by force.

When husband and wife turns away from God than in their private life everything suffers and so do their surroundings because we don’t  recognize Christ’s love which is open to all that embrace Him as savior and as Lord, in being foundation upon which our marriage must be built upon and maintained.

And we should always remember what Apostle Paul said be content in the situation where God had placed you. Live God’s way one day at a time and He will show you what to do because marriage is Gift of God.

Before I conclude as Husband and wife we have some duties to one another in the same way we have some duties towards our Church and Lord because Jesus said the Church’s congregation is His bride so let’s follow Jesus preaching

Prayer: Father I thank you for this hour day and for fulfilling all my needs and of those who are reading this message now. Lord give us the sense to make ourselves humble like you remove all kind of attitude from us so that it won’t be an obstacle in any relation gifted by Christ. I remember all those couples and other family relation which are facing time of trials or issues through your grace bless those relation from getting separated. Amen  

Why Am I On This Earth

Last year I went to Leh Ladak for my vacation, while passing through those dangerous valleys for a while I was scared thinking what if my cab just falls into the deep valley. Later I kept praying until I crossed the valleys safe. After some time I got a question in my mind why Jesus brought me into this world if I have die some 70 or 80 years later? or keeping present lifestyle in mind at the most 50 years. As a believer I always think there is something more to life from just to say Eat, Drink and be happy for tomorrow we die, but I think this assumption is wrong because even Science is discovering that the universe is getting old. It's dying just like man for example these days we have awareness regarding global warning. Sometime I wonder if all these things are going to happen than why I am on this Earth? And the answer is the reason I am here its because of God. The purpose of life is much larger than you or me, our families, careers or our goals. Life is not about us at all. It's about God. In Isaiah 43 verse 7 They are my own people and I created them to bring me glory.So let's not waste time in thinking about our careers,prosperity etc etc because in Pslam 32 verse 8 The Lord says I will teach you the way you should go. I will instruct you and advise you. In 1 Cor 10 verse 31"- Well what ever you do whether you eat or drink do it all for God's glory.

God created us for:

 1 For His glory. 

2 To glorify God and to fulfill His life purpose not ours. 

3  We can do anything be anyone or go anywhere as long as you include God.

4  Always glorify God in our own way. 

5 Life is God's gift lets' fulfill God's purpose not ours with the time He as        given to us.

In Genesis 1 verse 1 to 28 We get to know that in the beginning God created heaven, the earth, the humans. Bible tells us God specially created man and woman in His image so that God could have fellowship ( companionship or friendship) with His creation.He blessed them and gave them the rule over the fish of the sea and birds of the air and every living creature that moves on the ground. We are on the earth for God's pleasure,If we know God personally, than there is more to just living and dying because God does not want anyone to be destroyed but wants everyone to be repent. 2 Peter 3 verse 9

Now what is repentance and why do we need it? When Adam sinned, sin entered the world. Adam's sin brought death so death spread Romans 5 verse 21, So sin entered in the human world, but God created a away out of it through Jesus Christ to defeat last enemy death. So this is the reason we should have repentance, we are here on the earth to honour God to know God and to share the benefits of his experience with others while on earth so we can ultimately spread gospel to others. We can only do that if we know Jesus as our saviour.

1 God's purpose: To have peace and life. God loves you and wants you to know Him so He can fill you with peace and give you real life forever.

The Bible says: Because of our Lord Jesus we live at peace with God.

 Romans 5 verse 1 God loved the people of this world so much that He gave His only on so that everyone who has faith in Him will have eternal life and never die John 3 verse 16, Also in John 10 verse 10 Jesus said I came so that everyone would have life and have it in its fullest.

Now when God as planned peace for us and real life than why so many people our disturbed or angry or unhappy.

2 Our Problem Separation from God: God did not made us robot to automatically love and obey Him, but gave us a will and a freedom of choice and through this freedom since the beginning of time we our disobeying God and this results in separation from God which ends in having peace with Him .

There is only One way to reach God.

3 God's Remedy The Cross: Jesus is the only one who can bring us back to God. He died on the cross and rose on the third day by paying the penalty of our sin and breaching  the gap between God and people.

Today our choice should be

4 Our response Give ourselves to Christ: We must trust Jesus to forgive our sins and determine to obey Him for the rest of our life. That we can know God and find peace again.

The Bible say: So you will be saved if you honestly say Jesus is Lord and if you believe with all your heart that God raised Him from death. Romans 10 verse 9 to 10.

Prayer: Father I thank you for taking care of my needs and of those who are reading this message now. Father we really thank you for giving us the freedom to live but Father we ask you to help us and to guide us so that we will not make use your freedom for doing wrong instead through that freedom give us the strength to understand that we our on this Earth only and only to glorify your name. Through your son Jesus Amen.

Try Jesus

                                               TRY  JESUS

In our daily routine life we human beings always have face problems sometime family, sometime at work.

Few of us face problems with health and so on...... Humans Beings problems list is never ending it goes on and on ..... 

In Ezekiel 37 verse 3 " And he said unto me, Son of man can these bones live? And I answered, O Lord God, thou knowest.  Yes it so true its only Our Father in Heaven and His son Jesus knows everything and as solutions to our problems because in Jeremiah 29 verse 11 " For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil to give you an expected end." Amen. Our Lord promises us to give us peace and not evil. But most of the time when we suffer we try all other things expect Jesus for example if we have some health problem the first thing we do is is we approach Doctor, it is right to do that but we should also come down on our knees and ask 100% healing from Jesus but we fail to do that the first thing we do is approach Doctor if that does not work than we opt for some other solutions and towards the end we come to Jesus.

Let's see in the Bible people who were in problem or in need and they first approach Lord, they tried Lord and they got the answers.

Hannah: We all know Hannah was the one of the tow wives of Elkanah and God had closed her womb. In 1 Samuel 1 verse 10 " And she was in bittnerness of soul, and prayed unto the Lord, and wept sore.and in further verse she promises Lord that she will give the fruit of her womb unto the Lord. Amen , God listened to Hannah's weeping prayer. Today I urge and request to all those of my sister's in Christ due to some reason are not able to conceive I am not saying do not try medical treatment but along side try Jesus, Like Hannah got down on her knees weep and ask the Father and do remember like Hannah give your child or bring your child up in the fear of Lord. Today all parents wants their child to be a Doctor, engineer, dancer, singer but no one wish that their child should enter into bibical world because there is no money. Don't look for worldly money and worldly happiness which is for sometime and than it will go off but look for heavenly riches which last forever.

Elizabeth: In Luke Chp 1 we get to know that Elizabeth was old woman but as per verse 6 we get to know that she was faithful to God, and as we read further we get to know that God was pleased with her faithfulness and which was impossible that became possible through the Lord during her old age when it is not possible in that age God gave an honour to her of motherhood. We all should be faithful to the Lord no matter what happens we should never blame the Lord and turn away from Him because He as promised that he will give us peace and he will give us the end which we think of and exactly I think Elizabeth's last wish could be of becoming a mother which Go'd fulfilled because God himself is the creator of the world and the things which are in the world. Don't lose your faith in Lord, soon Lord will see our faithfulness attitude towards Him and He will give us the end an end which we expected.

Martha and Mary: Luke 10 verse 38 to 42. We get to know Martha was busy in the household chores and Mary sat down near Jesus feet and she was listening to His word. Today majority of us our like Martha and few of us our like Mary. As Martha was busy in house work we are busy in our work trying to achieve our goals like buying a flat, car, good job etc etc in doing that we try all the worldly thing and somethings goes wrong all of sudden we remember Jesus and than we try Jesus at the end. We should be like Mary, we should Try Jesus first all other things we fall in place through Jesus grace. Because when Martha made a complaint to Jesus, Jesus answered her that you are troubled and worried but Mary has chosen the right thing, so don't wait for a chance Jesus will reply to our complaint that you have not chosen an option like Mary. 

Zacchaeus : Luke 19 verse 1 to 9 , we get to know Zacchaeus was a tax collector and would have done many wrong things but when He realized his wrong doings instead of asking forgiveness from the people around Him what he did He tried Jesus first, he directly ask Jesus for his forgiveness when Jesus accepted Him and entered his house than he chose the second option of He said I will give half of my belongings to the poor, Today most of us would have done wrong things, most of us would be going through pain in relationships be it Husband wife, parents and children, instead of asking forgiveness directly to our loved ones ask forgiveness to our Jesus and than ask Jesus to be a mediator and request Jesus to send the Holy Spirit who will guide us to make our relationship more stronger than it was and prayerfully ask forgiveness to your own people.

Bleeding woman: Luke 8 verse 43 to 44. We get to know this woman was suffering a bleeding disease for 12 years and she tried many doctors and later second preference she tried Jesus and yet she was healed at once. Many of us would be not well, few of us would be fighting with cancer, sugar, BP etc I m not saying that don't try medical treatment but Try Jesus too don't give Jesus or don't keep an attitude like if nothing works than I will Try Jesus. Along with medication Try Jesus and ask Jesus for healing.

Prayer: Father I thank you for providing me with all my needs and also providing the needs of my friends who are reading this word now. Father please give us an attitude to Try your son Jesus in what ever we do, Father when ever we are choosing wrong step send your Holy spirit to guide us, Father through your son Jesus Christ have pity on us forgive our sins and bless us with the end which we have expected, Father you know all our wishes and needs grant them to us if you think if it is right for us to have it. Amen

Friendship

 We all like to make friends right from day one in our school the person with whom  we share  our table becomes our friend , In future if we stay in the same school and if we pass each class together than no doubt that same person becomes our best friend in our life and these worldly  "Best Friendship” last until we pass class 10^th  at the most until we pass out our 12^th later as days goes by we keep moving in life to achieve our own goals in order to achieve that we meet new people, we make new friends and as years pass by we remember the memories of our Best Childhood Friend with whom we are not in touch anymore.

 Many a times I ask a question to myself if we call somebody our best friend we spend time together, we eat together, we discuss life, careers etc and all of sudden we separate ourselves from our so called Best Friends just because we don’t like something in the same friend to whom we have earlier given a title of “ Best Friend” , “ Family Friend” , “ Good Friend” or a “ Friend in Christ”..

Who would we call our best friend? For some of us we call our parents our best friends, for some of us there spouse is there best friend, for some of us their childhood friend is a best friend or for some of us there office mates are best friends. Best friends are very important they back up us when people are against us. No problem is so dark in presence of best friends.

Jesus gave us the biblical definition of a true friend in John 15 verse 13-15 The greatest love a person can have for his friends is to give his life for them. And you are my friends if you do what I command you. I do not call you servants any longer, because a servant does not know what his master is doing Instead, I call you friends, because I have told you everything I have heard from my Father.

Lets us see some examples of friendships from the Bible

There are a number of friendships in the Bible that remind us of how we should be treating one another on  a daily basis.

Ruth and Naomi:  Friendships can be formed among different ages and from anywhere. Ruth 1 16-17  we get to know how Ruth became friends with her mother in law and they became family, looking out for each other throughout their lives.

Today I urge to all those mother in laws and the daughter in laws if you have any problem in this delicate relationship just put across in front of you the example of Ruth and Naomi and just ask Jesus to guide you in the same way like Ruth so that you can be best friends.

David and Jonathan : Sometime it does happen there are people who hates you or they don’t like your presence and one fine day the same person becomes your good friend. In David and Jonathan case they never hated each other but their friendship happened instantly. In 1 Samuel 18 1-3 We get to know that they both became friends instantly.

David and Abiathar: Friends protect one another and gets disturbed when the other friend is going through hard time in family, life etc.  I would like to share my testimony here and I thank Jesus for giving me so good friend , A friend who stood along with my family  when we were  going through the hard time during my father’s hospitalization.

In 1 Samuel 22 22-23 we get to know David felt the pain of Abiathar’s loss, as well as responsibility for it, so he vowed to protect him from Saul’s wrath.

Elijah and Elisha: Friends stick to each other, no mater what the situation is good friends never leave each other. Today few of us will be not on talking terms with your good friends or you may have left the companionship of your good friends so today is the day prayerfully ask Jesus to give us the same attitude of Elisha that we will not leave our good friends under any circumstance.

In 2 Kings 2:2 “ And Elijah said to Elisha , Stay here for the Lord has told me to go to Bethel, But Elisha replied As surely as the Lord lives and you yourself live, I will never leave you! So they went down together to Bethel.

Friends introduce friends to other friends, In Romans 16 3-4, Paul said  “ Greet Priscilla and Aquila my co -workers in Christ  Jesus.

Loyal friends love through difficult time: Proverbs 17:17 A friend is always loyal and a brother is born to help in time of need. In our difficult times our family may not be with us, few fake friends who claim themselves as a good friend may not be with us but a true and a good friend will always be with us in our  hard times.

Counsel from a friend is pleasing: Proverbs 27:9 The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense. Many a  time we may come to a situation where we may feel disheartened by the deeds of our good friends but the counsel and advise given by our good friends is little hard to bear but its good because it’s a real advise.

Friends Shape and Sharpen one another: Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. We should always have a friend who will never sharpen us to do wrong thing but will always sharpen us to do something good and work for the spread of gospel.

Believers Enjoy Friendship with God; Romans 5:10 For since our friendship with God was restored by the death of his son while we were still his enemies, we will certainly be saved through the life of his son.

Before I conclude I would like to recite the below poem which I read once.

I like you not only for what you are,

But for what I am when I am with you.

I like you not only for what you have made of yourself,

But for what you are making of me.

I like you not for closing your ears to the discords in me,

But for adding to the music in me by worshipful listening.

You have done it without a touch, without a word, without a sign,

You have done it just by being yourself.

Prayer: Heavenly Father I thank you for fulfilling my needs and all of my friends needs who are reading the message now. Father gives us the heart and an attitude to be a good friend to people around us and to help our friends in need. Father today we pray due some reason if we have lost our good friends companionship through your holy spirit reunite us with our good friends. Through your Son Jesus Christ Amen.